by Ingrid Mathieu, Ph.D. in Emotional Sobriety
"...we try to wrangle for control over uncomfortable feelings is to talk our way out of them with statements such as, “It’s not that big of a deal,” or “I’m being ridiculous, this doesn’t warrant any of my energy.” No matter how hard we try to convince ourselves that we shouldn’t be having a particular response—it doesn’t remove the underlying emotional experience. What it does create is a large gap between what you are telling yourself and what you are actually feeling. The dissonance between the two creates so much tension that we often end up acting in self-destructive ways.""Relating this to emotional sobriety, I believe that the goal is to feel all of our feelings, not to be held hostage by them, transcend or avoid them."
